By now I would have thought that we were all aware of the importance of taking a moment to consider, before posting something to our Facebook page. But apparently, I'm wrong.
Recently, a woman who has not only written books, but actually has a publisher, posted something on her FB page. An everyday occurrence. Authors often take advantage of FB and other social media to communicate with their fans and promote their books. But what she posted -- well, while it communicated with her fans, it certainly did not promote her books. This author posted something to the effect of
Hey, quit bothering me with stupid questions. I don't have time to tell you the order of my books, or when my next one is coming out. I have more important things to do.
Yes, I'm paraphrasing, but she truly did use the phrase 'stupid questions'.
As you might imagine, quite a firestorm erupted, with people pointing out things such as the fact that the requested information did not appear on her website, and that as an author she should be nice to her fans and potential fans. And in an ideal world, Ms. Author would have made changes to her website, and perhaps made a note to herself to be a bit more positive in her FB postings, and maybe even apologized. At a minimum, Ms. Author should have just let the matter drop.
But she didn't.
She responded to those who said she should be nice, and told them that she didn't have to be nice because she was a good author, and then they got nasty, and she got nasty, and they got nastier, and she got nastier.... and among other things, there seemed to be a growing number of people who said 'I've never read your books before, but after this, I'm not going to.'
Not long after, Ms. Author put up a new post on her FB page. She said her publisher had told her to remove that earlier post that began with her telling people to quit bothering her with stupid questions. I'm pretty sure she called that post an Apology... but I might be wrong. Whether she called it an apology or not, it most certainly was not. Instead, Ms. Author went on at length about how unfair it was that she wasn't allowed to vent .. and how unfair it was that people wouldn't buy her books if they didn't like what she said. People who knew her, knew that she was nice and it wasn't her fault that people were stupid and didn't realize how precious her time was and how important it was that she be free from distractions so she could write more books. And yes, she truly did say 'stupid questions' and 'stupid people'.
And.... as you might imagine, that post turned into a nasty mess of name calling, until her publisher insisted she take down that post as well. (Which is why I can't be certain she called the second post an apology.)
Now this is not someone who I follow. I heard about the initial post from someone else, and decided to check it out. I had never heard of Ms. Author before, and I've never read anything she's written. And after reading her initial post and her responses, and then her follow-up post and her responses, I don't intend to read anything she's written.
Perhaps Ms. Author thought that making a scene would get her a lot of attention, and that attention would result in people becoming curious and buying her books. But I'm pretty sure that's not what she accomplished. You see, there is such a thing as bad publicity. And while I don't take the view that an author has an obligation to 'connect' with the reading public, I do think that if an author chooses to be 'out there', they need to show a modicum of respect to their readers and potential readers. And from the responses she received to her posts, there are a lot of people who feel the way that I do.
It's unfortunate. We all have bad days... and I suspect the initial post was not a planned marketing strategy, but was merely the consequence of a bad day. Had Ms. Author then apologized, and moved on, I suspect she might have actually acquired some additional readers. But she didn't know when to apologize.
While (unsuccessfully) looking for some images for this post, I found the following quote:
Apologizing does not always mean that you're wrong. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego. * It's very easy to become defensive, but it's more important to know when to apologize. And it's equally important to think about those Facebook posts before you hit the 'enter' key.
And of course it's most important to not let the kettle boil dry. So I'm off for a cup of tea, and perhaps a good book. But not one written by Ms. Author.
*My apologies to the author of this quote... I found the quote in a lot of different locations, but was never able to determine who the author was, to give credit.